The mayhem of the last year in my personal life wasn’t enough. It has just about reached some sort of a steady state of calm and now all the drama has turned towards my professional life.
I am not an ambitious woman, but I love and enjoy my work life most of the time. Corporate gives me some sort of a kick.My identity, financial independence, my standing and how my personality has been shaped over the last many years are largely because of my profession and career.
As a corporate female leader in the tech industry, I have faced numerous challenges. But I always believed in being fair, upfront, and clear about my work and expected the same in return from people I reported to or who reported to me.
This year, our yearly performance ratings were shared, and I didn’t receive mine, which was a bit of a surprise for me. I checked with the manager and human resource department, and both had no clarity on the situation as the person in charge was on leave.
I decided to have a face-to-face discussion with my manager, and he assured me in not so many words that my performance rating is good. He didn’t have any other news. Something wasn’t sitting right with me. I prodded and nudged but was greeted with the same off-hardish non-committal response.
No one from my organisation has given me clarity and it’s a fuck all position to be in. My mind is continuously going in a loop. The worst has already been imagined. Anxiety is spiking up again and again with my inability to focus on anything else.
I know this is out of my control. Accepting and moving on is my best bet, but in all fairness, I would have appreciated a hint or two as to what was coming up. The false assurance which I continued to get is leaving a very bad taste in my mouth and is bringing up all my past trust issues.
Clarity is what is needed, but I am sceptical as well. What will it be? continuation or termination. Will I get time to look for a new job or be asked to leave immediately?
When I look for a new job, I don’t want to be in a position of NEED but of WANT. Making a compromise out of fear of losing an opportunity is my biggest fear. I continue to feel I don’t deserve everything because I am a woman. Even after years of fighting my way up, I don’t see what value I bring to the table. Asking for a raise, or a job, or a promotion comes with many rounds of internal conflict.
I feel it’s about time I was operating from a position of power and not made to feel less of myself.
Wish me luck, Universe!
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